Family Secrets!


I stumbled on this photo today. Well, not quite in this condition, of course, I had to hide the identities of all of them even though I would LOVE to put this picture on a billboard somewhere in all its clarity and colour!

That’s the thing about Christmas and New Year, even long before social media or even the internet, it was a time to connect, share, take and send out family photos and news. This is good for many of us, we love to connect and embrace and celebrate. It is part of the core of our beings to be part of a tribe and to celebrate together.

But with 1 in 4 girls and 1 in 6 boys being sexually abused before they are adults, most of whom were/are abused by family members, this holiday season is a time of immense trauma! Why?

  • Abusers/ex-abusers are often present at these family gatherings and we are forced to be in their company and say nothing.
  • Abuse often happens when families are staying in each other’s homes, bundled into rooms and onto couches around the house. So family get-togethers are often also anniversaries of past abuse.
  • Alcohol flows, emotions are high, abusers are triggered and are more likely to “need” to act out and “self-soothe”.
  • For those same reasons, abused children’s emotions are more likely to be invisible, lost in the chaos, the booze, the fights and the general busyness. People are also busy and don’t have resources left to see or hear things that aren’t quite right around them.

The list goes on, but there is another one I want to highlight today. And that is the family letters, the photos, the gatherings captured all over social media and emails. One can ignore an uncle (or aunt) who abused us as much as possible during the year, but at this time of year their faces pop up all over the place and it can send many people into a tailspin.


This is the photo I stumbled upon this morning, and here are the characters:

G is not in the actual picture, I have simply placed them at the bottom so I can explain the connections. G is someone I love. This is their story to tell, not mine, hence all the cloaks and daggers. If I had my way, I’d be shouting this from the rooftops!

A is married to D (marriage circled in pink). (F is their granddaughter through C but I’ll leave her out for now).

B is married to E (marriage circled in pink, I’ve left E out for now too).

A & B are siblings (blue line).

C is the adult child of D, stepchild of A, and parent of E. – C is also the older cousin to G.

Supposedly, this is a run of the mill family Christmas photo, shared today with lots of news. “Innocent” in so many ways. But here is what it means to G when they see it (hopefully they haven’t and won’t).


Those thick orange lines are verifiable sexual abuse! We won’t even go into emotional abuse and other forms of control and manipulation within this family. But:

  • Siblings A & B each sexually abused their child and stepchild.
  • C (at 16) went on to abuse G (at 14) on a whole new level of physical sexual abuse.

Those orange lines are from G‘s own personal experiences and knowledge. But we have no choice but to ask ourselves if A abused his stepchild (C), then why not his grandchildren as well? I can’t say. If C abused G, then which of the many other cousins did they also abuse? I have no idea.

If 2 siblings sexually abused their own children, then did the other siblings in their generation also abuse? And if not sexually then in other ways. Were they also then abused themselves? Not all people who are abused go on to abuse as well, in fact, most don’t, but those who do abuse were abused one way or another themselves. Familial patterns like this one which popped up not 2 hours ago are scary!!

I feel physically ill, and my blood is boiling. But the things that boggle my mind the most about this happy snap shared with the world today are the questions in my head; Do they pretend there is no abuse? Do they all just get together and act as though nothing ever happened? Has it even stopped? Or has it been passed down to another generation? Do the spouses know? What is it like to be these people? To be C and stay within the fold and face their abuser on a very regular basis? … I don’t get it, but I understand that many people risk their own healing for the sake of remaining within the tribe. It’s all in or all out. There is no middle road.

has left from this equation entirely and at enormous cost, but it has been vital to their survival. They have never and will likely never confront this lot or the rest of the extended family. This has been the only way to stop the cycle and to protect their own children. It’s not worth taking on the whole tribe.

Whether you have chosen to remain or leave, the cost is huge. And the photos going out there during and post-Christmas can have a massive impact on so many levels…

If you too are struggling through this season of family secrets and nightmares, know you are not alone. I hear you!! If, however, you need some more than just a little encouragement right now, I highly recommend giving a shout out to Matt Pappas at “Beyond Your Past“! He’s a fabulous listener with incredible personal experience.


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Wrap Up for 2017!

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Well, in theory, it’s 2 days till Christmas, …..but we can’t wait that long (and life of course, is complicated!) …so for our family, this year, today is Christmas Eve (very convenient for a Saturday), tomorrow is Christmas Day, and both Monday & Tuesday are Boxing Days 🙂

I’ll try and keep this short, as we all spending so much time reading annual newsletters and catchups, but I don’t want this opportunity to pass completely and I suspect the next week (like the last) will be spent with treasured loved one, so not much work will be done!

2017 has been an AMAZING year for us on so many levels. In January The Lion and the Peacock not only became a reality but about 6 weeks ago (and 10 months in) we crossed the 10,000 downloads line! I couldn’t have imagined that in my wildest dreams and the feedback has totally blown me away!

Mind you, if half the wonderful emails, messages and so on translated to actual Ama8on reviews and all countries could see all the reviews then it would be AMAZING. I’ve failed miserably through the year to get through to my readers how important those reviews are and that until I can get 50 on the .com site (many have left their reviews on .au / / .ca etc which is fabulous but stupid Ama8zon doesn’t show them across the board. I don’t know how to do this better so I would be most grateful for suggestions! (and even more grateful for reviews!).

My Author Facebook Page which I only really started making something of in May this year has grown to over 500 followers, so that is also really exciting. As I’ve emersed myself in a small handful of incredible writing and reading groups like

As I’ve emersed myself in a small handful of incredible writing and reading groups like The Readers Review Room, (RRR), We Love Memoirs, (WLM), and of course the various parts of the OSFARG Family (One Stop Fiction Authors Resource Group), I have developed and become emersed in some amazing tribes. I don’t even write fiction but the OSFARG group are the most AMAZING group of authors with unbelievable resources and all run by my incredibly talented and beautiful cousin Kathryn!

So to all those people who write to ask for publishing help, you’ll know that the first places I send you to are the OSFARG and RRR groups. It’s been a great year for me in both those places with amazing support and some beautiful friendships.

There is much that I missed this year too, for all kinds of reasons, but it’s been a year of learning, growing, finding my voice and my space to a degree. Thank you to so many people (I was going to start naming names but realized how many of you there are!) who have come into my life in 2017 and made such an impact. Thank you, thank you!

There are dozens of things I wanted to do before this year is out but in the end, the opportunity to hang with some my beautiful children is just too good to pass up and I’ve been hiding under a rock for a week, …. where I plan to stay till the year ends.

2018 is going to be AMAZING! It’s all under tight wraps for now, so I can’t even hint, but watch this space!

Be safe this busy season, all of you please! And I’ll see you in January 🙂


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Author Helen Pryke

One of the things I’m LOVING about being an author is this whole new world around what it really means to actually to put a book out there into the world! That may sound like a really obvious and basic sentence, but I’ve found an incredible appreciation for the fact that all authors are actually real people, and that for all of them there is still a long, scary, anxious journey each time they put a new book out.

I also spread my wings in terms of what I read, and then closed them round myself again. There just isn’t time in life to read all the things out there, all the time. But along the way I’ve found a bunch of authors whom I really enjoy, not just because they write really well but because they write from their hearts! They write about things that matter. They have an agenda which means something and they are out to change the world, one little piece at a time. There are others too whom I have found and I plan on introducing them all to you through 2018 (if you haven’t already heard of them).

I will still always keep a look-out for more, but when I find them, I’m loving supporting them in the way I’d also like to be supported one day when I’m a big shot like they are.

Author Helen Pryke is one such person and I don’t even remember how I stumbled upon her writing but I did and I am so thankful for that.

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Her Bio tells us that Helen was born in England, but now lives in the north of Italy with her husband and two sons. After becoming accustomed to the culture, the language and the Italian way of doing things, she immersed herself in her passion for writing and published her debut novel, Walls of Silence, last year. A lover of coffee, chocolate, and cakes, she now dedicates herself to her family and writing.

It was Walls of Silence that I so enjoyed. The rawness of the story and her amazing talent for telling deeply traumatic incidents as they are without either whitewashing them nor making them voyeuristic. She is an author to watch if you are into things very real.

And now she is about to launch her second great novel. The Healer’s Secret is inspired by her beautiful, complicated Italy. And I can’t wait to preorder it and read it the moment it is ready!

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Here’s the blurb:
Jennifer’s life isn’t going as she planned. Fired from her job and on the brink of divorce at thirty-one, her only salvation lies at the bottom of a wine bottle. When her mother insists she get away from everything, she reluctantly agrees to explore her Italian roots in Tuscany.
Staying in her family’s centuries-old cottage, she becomes embroiled in a mysterious tragedy involving her great-grandmother no-one wants to talk about. As she delves further into her ancestors’ history, she discovers there is more to her heritage than meets the eye.

Ghosts from the past could give Jennifer something she thought she’d never have: a future. But that depends on whether she can resist temptation and avoid slipping back into her old ways.

Will she be able to conquer her inner demons and discover the healer’s secret?


The Healer’s Secret is available for preorder at 99c/99p instead of its usual price of $2.99/£2.99 at:

I’m off to get my copy! (and review it on Amazon & Goodreads, we all know how important that is!)


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Is Yours a Luke-Warm Sea?

img_1061What breaks my heart are brands (authors & others) who don’t succeed, not because they have no support, but because they drown in a sea of luke-warm support. An army of people who sign on in order to “be kind“, to “boost their numbers“, to “see what it’s like” and who all assume someone else is doing the beta reading, the reviews, or standing on a soapbox down on the corner. And when every single one of those people assume that everyone else is at the epicentre of the campaign… no one is!

We, therefore, need to have some committed Brand Ambassadors who volunteer, hold those posts, and do so proudly! Some people who totally get that they are “it”. That the buck stops with them. The rest of the crowd are great because a portion of them, either intentionally or otherwise, will still do bits and pieces here and there, and that is vitally important as well. But the people in the middle, those who have your back, can make or break us. They are the dozen or so disciples who will pass a word on, tell a friend, chat about our brand with passion, and it is them who will be our greatest allies.

They are the dozen or so disciples who will pass a word on, tell a friend, chat about our brand with passion, and it is they who will be our greatest allies. These people, are our Tribes. Our Brand Ambassadors. Our Heroes. Our Village.

I am building a tribe. We are about a dozen and we all believe in each other. Our purpose is not to review. Our purpose is to build a tribe and have each other’s backs. When each of us launches, the rest of us shout about it. We multiply the voices, we speak on each other’s behaves. We point to the one in the spotlight.

Who is your Tribe?


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Control Your Newsfeed 2

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In THIS post last week I talked about gaining some control over your newsfeed by tweaking the “top end”. This was about the “see first” options where we are allowed to pick 30 Facebook users only, whom you can always see what they post, and “see all posts” for all groups and pages that you don’t want to miss anything from.

But Face8book still only shows us each about 10% of what we could see if all our friends popped up on our news feeds. That means that I could still miss some stuff I’d hate to miss for whatever reason.

So the last few days I’ve been experimenting and the results have been way better than I imagined. This is more of a long-term tweaking project, but I did quite a lot of it earlier and feel I’ve broken the back of the job. And unlike the more purposeful yet vital task of the “top end”, this is even easier and faster and you don’t have to count.

Basically, any posts that appear in my newsfeed that I don’t deem in the top 30%, I click on the top right corner of the post and down pops a bunch of options, and I click “Unfollow Xblah-blah”. And that’s it. They are still my friend, they can still see my stuff, I can go and find them to see what they’re up to any time I like, they will never know they don’t appear on my newsfeed, and I will still see their major events.

However, when they click on every single post about bacon, 47 times a day, those don’t appear on my news feed anymore. It isn’t a moral issue, it isn’t about cutting them off, and they will never know the difference.

The vital part here is to remember that I no longer have bacon funnies taking up 5 of the precious 10% of all my friend’s newsfeeds! While those posts are harmless, it is easy to forget those posts are there INSTEAD of Mary’s grad pictures, Bob’s new baby, and my best friend who is currently in hospital or on an overseas trip.

You may not want to see Bob’s baby pics and those bacon pics may be the highlight of your day. Again, I stress, this has nothing to do with right or wrong. But Face8ook is currently making these newsfeed choices for you and you have the option of taking back some of that control. Say no to Bacon so you have a bigger chance of seeing babies … or the other way around if that suits you better.

The result: I have been blown away by the posts which have appeared on my newsfeed which are way more interesting to me than those whom I’ve unfollowed. And the good thing is, unlike the top “see firsts” of which there are only 30, the quantity of bottom bits, which I have “unfollowed”, is unlimited, and each time I unfollow someone, someone else pops on! (and if they are also not top 30% worthy, then they get unfollowed too).

Here are some reasons why some of your favourite people may still qualify for unfollowing:

  • You see them every day anyway, or
  • They belong to a Face8ook group you are in and both of you are very active there, or
  • You are in the same circle of friends so you see them on other’s posts anyway, or
  • They never share any news, or photos so you don’t get anything from them Face8ook wise anyway, or
  • They share mostly what you see as rubbish, or
  • They perhaps should be employed by click farms, or
  • They have a chronic interest that bores you to tears,
  • Etc….

Please don’t judge them and please remember that they will never know, and you can still interact in all kinds of ways, including Face8ook where you look them up or see them on regular posts by mutual friends.


To unfollow them you can go to their profile but the easiest way is to do it from your news feed. As each post pops up I ask myself, “is this worthy of the top 30% of posts I want on my newsfeed?” and if the answer is no, then I click on the 3 dots at the top right-hand corner of the post.



This box pops up when I do that: I click on the “Unfollow Xblah-blah” …. img_2469-2

You will get a confirmation that you’ve unfollowed them, which is great but also note the bottom line which I have circled in red. This is another way to check your preferences and “see firsts” at any point that you want to make sure you’re happy with your choices or tweak them 🙂


Hope this helps! Please let me know, and set your Face8ook settings to help you!


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Scale or Genre?

img_9243I’m sure I’m not the only one who agrees that not all Romance books are created equally. Neither are all crime novels, all memoirs, or all violence-themed thrillers. To me, there is a clear scale, and in our Writing Group we have been discussing this at length. It’s a hard discussion to have because we also all have filters that determine where we would like our books to fit. We then also add moral or “better/worse” scales to the equation and struggle to see things as being of equal value, just “different”.

Here’s an example; At one end of the scale, Romance can be clean as a whistle. No sex scenes, no sex before marriage, no disrespect towards women (except from the bad guys) and so on. Some may scoff at this idea but this writing space is huge and the world is filled with mostly women readers who are tired of the sex thrown at them from every billboard, movie and TV advertisement. They want to enjoy and believe that there is still a place in the world for respect, true love, and deeply heroic, decent men and that women can still be swept off their feet for all the right reasons. (and I like to think that these people do still exist!)

At the other end of the scale, there is written pornography in all its forms. These ends of the scale clearly are not the same thing, and while they may well both fit into the Romance genre, they are unlikely to be enjoyed by a single reader, or written by a single author.

But the bigger questions are:

  • Where is the middle line?
  • Who fits on either side of it?
  • And is someone who reads the red end (explicit sex) more likely to also read and enjoy books with explicit violent scenes? And is someone who enjoys the pink end (squeaky clean) more likely to also read squeaky clean ends of other genres too?

The same then applies to crime/violence, social justice issues, religion, and other genres does it not?

In my subjective experience, pretty much no one I know only reads a single genre. There are a whole bunch of genre that they will not read, but of those that they do enjoy, all pretty much fit on the same place on the scale.

Let’s make an imaginary scale. 1-6 With an imaginary wall in the middle. That wall has a door in it, that can open or shut. Whether the scene is in a bedroom, police station, crime scene, hospital room, battlefield, history museum, or anywhere else on earth, in any genre imaginable, the scale is divided down the middle and the reader is either taken through into that room, …or they aren’t.

  • 1= Squeaky clean on all levels. In a nutshell, there is no room!
  • 2= There are some hints and innuendoes about private or gory details, but still everything is pretty much left to the imagination.
  • 3= Sex and/or violent scenes may be present, and big issues raised, however, they are implied and alluded to, but no details are given. You are not actively taken into the bedroom, the crime scene, the bar brawl or the morgue.
  • ————————————
  • 4= The imagination is still very much in play, but the author spells out a number of details about what is going on. The reader is taken through those doors, but briefly.
  • 6= A good deal of time and explanation is given to these rooms, issues are dealt with in depth and scenes are built quite fully. But there are still many details which are left to the imagination.
  • 8= No holds barred. A spade is a spade. Nothing is left to the imagination. Anything and everything goes and the more detail, the better.

In case you’re wondering, I don’t read about sex, zombies, horror or ghosts, but I’m a 6 kind of gal!! (writing and reading)

What are you?


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Author Instagram!

Screen Shot 2017-11-03 at 1.43.11 PM.pngSo I’ve heard there’s no point in Instagram for authors. But here is how it works for me:

1: First and foremost, I think of it as my shop window. People who love Instagram (and LOADS of people do!) look people up authors and people they are interested in and if there’s nothing there, then they often lose interest. So it’s a good thing to have. By having it, and it being a good representation of who I am as an author is worthwhile.

But while that remains true, who wants to spend a whole bunch of time on something like this if it’s not your thing? But Instagram is owned by Facebook and so a photo I would otherwise post to Facebook, I post to IG instead, and it goes to both instantly. So I don’t think of my IG time as IG time at all, but as HQ (Facebook Author Page) time.

I don’t get hung up on IG results and here is why:

Yesterday I posted this photo to IG:

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The photo received very little attention, in fact, it was so pathetic it only acquired 3 likes and no comments!


But remember that as I posted it, it went directly to Facebook as well!





On Facebook, it received 9 likes and 21 comments (some of them are mine, of course, but I can only really comment in response to other things). So the singular act of uploading ONE photo (which is also WAY quicker to load to IG than to Fb by the way) in total got 12 likes and 21 comments!

I killed 2 birds with one stone, and to be fair, there are days where a photo falls through the cracks on Facebook, but gets loads of attention on IG.

I could totally just add it to Facebook only, but instead, I may as well hedge my bets right. And not a second of my precious time is lost in the process.

So if you don’t have Instagram, or you do and you are concerned it’s a waste of time, I don’t think it is if you use it simply as an upload method … 🙂


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How Do I Tell Them Their Writing Sucks?

IMG_2074How do we support fellow authors when we feel their writing is not of a standard that we would be proud to share?

Today’s question is a lot more sensitive than usual as none of us wants to hurt the feelings of fellow tribe members. But the reality is, we come up against this problem all the time, and we need to put it on the table fully and purposefully if it isn’t going to become the elephant in the room very quickly! Ultimately it will only going to get bigger, and we need to clean up all that poop! So let’s sort it out now before it settles in.

I am no expert on this subject and I find it extremely difficult to tackle. So I’m just going to throw out some thoughts on this one, and hopefully, you can all build on it?

First and foremost I want to stress that being given the opportunity to read and review and critique the work of another author is a huge honour and one that we need to be very very careful with. This is sacred space we are treading on, and no matter what we do, feel or say, we need to tread with a massive dose of humility and an even bigger dose of grace! Anything short of that is always going to go badly!

Here are some real-life examples:

I once read an ARC (Advanced Reader Copy) of a book which from page one was filled with errors. I would have put down the book immediately but I had offered to read it for a friend and didn’t want to let her down. So I read a few pages more to see what was going on and soon realized that there was a beautiful story underneath there and that without the errors, it could be a success. So I put on the most humble hat I could find, wrote her a carefully worded message which was the least accusatory or judgemental that I could possibly write, and apologized profusely for being the bearer of bad news.

But I told her straight out, that I saw great potential in her story, and that I also saw some quite bad mistakes. I shared with her that in my own personal, totally subjective opinion, the mistakes appeared to me to be simply a translation issue (the book had been written first in a European language) and I gave her some advice on how to fix them.

I went to bed worried, but needn’t have. I woke the next morning to a beautiful thank you message, and over the next few weeks we put our heads together to come up with a solution. She sacked her translator, postponed her launch by a few weeks, and we combed through that manuscript over and over again. She ran it through Grammarly time and again, and I cheered her on from the sidelines every step of the way.

It was a great honour for me to be a small part in that and loved watching her beautiful story emerge!

Here is another real-life story:

I bought a book that looked great, and while it was a much heavier story, with all the things that I am passionate about (abuse, survival, tribes and so on), there too was an amazing story in there. The author wrote in a way that I felt brilliantly walked that very fine line between laying bare the truth of unspeakable abuse without having to go overboard and become gory or voyeuristic. She somehow kept the integrity of the abused child and later adult, without shying away from the horror that she endured.

But I also found the story a little jarring. Instead of building through to crescendoes and solutions and resolutions which built slowly and unpacked over time, the story moved from beautifully written tragedy to beautifully written tragedy with very fast solutions in between which came out of nowhere. I wanted to know how those solutions evolved and came into being, how trust was built and I wanted to live with the main character through her fear of failure with so much on the line. I wanted to rejoice with her triumph but it was a triumph that I couldn’t connect to as the reader was not taken on that particular journey.

Again it was my personal perspective opinion on the story and it was very subjective, but I wanted to share my thoughts with the author in the hope that they could take her writing to the next level. I still believe that she has huge potential as a world-class author, but that this potential blind spot could hold her back for some readers.

Her response was not as welcomed as the other author and she told me I was wrong. I have no doubt that I am wrong, who am I anyway, and it was just my opinion. But it laid out for me the question of how do we navigate this space of sharing our opinions and helping? I was honest with both of them and had completely different results.

And in both cases I believed in the authors and would read ALL of their books and be a huge Brand Ambassadors for them for the rest of their careers if they would learn from what I see as their potential blind spots.. I am not the boss of how successful anyone is, but I do follow authors I can get behind totally, but don’t want to read books that leave me feeling as though it could have been so much more.

Then again what would have happened in each of these 2 cases if behind their meagre blind spots, there wasn’t an amazing author there? What if those stories were boring or badly written, or mechanical or going nowhere no matter what efforts and “fixes” were thrown at them?

I invested in those stories and those authors because I LOVE their work. But there have been others where I simply don’t. Is it me? Is it them? Who am I to say. But I simply don’t have the time, energy, or know how to help them in any way that I can see will make a difference, and it’s best to walk away. Isn’t it?

So my only thoughts and experiences come to these conclusions:

  1. If I have the honour of reading anything for review or critique, then I do so remembering that this is sacred ground I have been given the honour of walking on. I need to treat it as such.
  2. If I LOVE it and it is perfect (how often does that ever happen LOL), then fabulous for me and fabulous for them! Woohoo!! I become their number one fan, write a great review, and become a brand ambassador for them FOREVER!  ….YAY!
  3. More likely, however, is that especially for a relatively new author (less than 5 full books under their belt) there will be a few blind spots that they would hopefully want to be aware of. Most authors want to be better and to know how to improve. But again, we are on sacred group here, so all feedback should be given with as much grace and humility as possible.
  4. How the author responds is about them not me. If I have been constructive, humble and gracious, that is all I can do. If they don’t want anything more then that’s fine and I honestly do feel for them as no one likes “constructive feedback” so they are entitled to feel a bit yuck. But whether they use that feedback as a stepping stone or not is up to them.
  5. If I can’t find the fluent, flowing author and his or her magic in there anywhere, regardless of mistakes big or small, then this is where I struggle the most. It doesn’t mean a fabulous, incredible author isn’t in there, or that their work is not magnificent, but some writing styles don’t speak to me, some stories I cannot relate to, some language grates on me rather than sings to me, and sometimes I can’t even unpack it that succinctly that I can put my finger on the “problem”. It’s just for me and that’s the end of that.

What are your experiences and solutions to this dilemma?


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Take Control of Your NewsFeed!

Today’s questions are all about how to follow your favourite PAGES and GROUPS on Facebook. This is super important for a few of reasons:

1: If you run a page or group yourself, you want to be able to tell your followers and supporters that unless they take a few steps to make it happen, they will not see the vast majority (if any) of your page posts.

2: If you want to be a valuable tribe or village member, then it can become extremely frustrating trying to find the posts of the pages and groups you want to support unless you follow these steps.

3: If you want to post fabulous things to your page without constantly going on about yourself, then following the steps below will ensure that you always have a newsfeed filled with the PAGES that you love. Then all you have to do is share a few of them, and your own page becomes full and active quite quickly.


Let’s say you belong to the group ONE STOP FICTION LAUNCH TEAMS. It is a private group, so it isn’t a space for “sharing” but it is where your tribe resides, and where you get fabulous tips most days. It is also a space where you can ask questions about your book launch or street team.

If you open this group on your computer and hover over the word “Notifications” under the starfish, you need to click All Posts. This means that all posts will appear in your notifications and your newsfeed.

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Just say you’ve been away for a few days and your notifications are so full it’s hard to work through them. It can be easier to click on the 3 dots to the right of the “Share” button and click on “Pin to shorcuts.

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When you do this, One Stop Fiction Launch Teams will appear on the left of your homepage and newsfeed, and it even appears on the left when you are on any other profile, page, or group, under the word Shortcuts. You can see I added it here so instead of Chronic Readers being on the top, OSFLTs is now on top.

Screen Shot 2017-11-08 at 8.38.35 AMYou may even prefer this method and to simply check in on what is happening in the group whenever you feel like it!

These two steps can be applied to any group or page you belong to… The first step isn’t totally foolproof so I highly recommend the second step over and above the first.

I apply these steps to ALL the pages and groups that I need to see all the time!




STEP THREE: “See first”

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If you click on the very right-hand side of the top blue bar of your screen, there is a down arrow. The third from the bottom option says “News Feed Preferences”. If you click on that, this large box will pop up:

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The first option, with the blue star/circle, allows you to prioritise your newsfeed. So click on it, and another box will pop up showing everything and everyone you follow.

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This option not only assures that every post from that site/profile/group/page will pop up in your newsfeed, but it will appear first, at the top of your newsfeed every time you open it! You can see that I follow all these great pages, but I want to make sure that I don’t miss posts from Beyond Your Past Coaching. This is a business that I am passionate about and believe in, so I am a brand ambassador for Matt Pappas and everything he is doing. So I have given him a blue star, which means his page will appear first on my newsfeed every time I open it!

The catch here is you only have a maximum of about 20 “see first” places (that number can and does change). So I have chosen the 6 brands for whom I am an ambassador, 10 pages which post things that I love to share because they are fun, interesting, a good representation of my own brand, and 4 others.

If you want to be the best Brand Ambassador you can be, and want your own followers and fans to do the same, then these easy steps are a great place to start and to organise your online experience 🙂

PS: On my phone, it looked like this:

The first screenshot I have opened to the author Page Jennifer Peacock-Smith, then I clicked on the “Following” button in blue next to the Liked button. It opened to the second screenshot where I had 3 options, “unfollow” “default” and “see first”. I turned the “get notifications” on, then I made “see first” turn blue, and then I clicked on “edit notifications” which opened me to the third screenshot which has a whole bunch of options. I clicked yes to the first three, and no to the last 2 which would pretty much undo all the good work if they were on :p

Hope this helps! Please let me know, and set your Face8ook settings to help you!


Where you can find and follow Jennifer:

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